Vale Birdie, my dear friend

Dear Birdie,

We’ve been friends since the beginning of high school, over 48 years ago now. We went through university together, then on to our varied careers. We saw each other become wives with loving husbands, and mothers of our beautiful children. Throughout the years, even though we were soon separated geographically, we never lost touch. We shared the events of our daily lives, our thoughts, joys and sorrows, by letters (‘snail mail’) then later by fax, then email and finally via Facebook and Messenger and also through our blogs, with the occasional phone-call and family visit thrown in when possible. Thank you for sharing your journey with everyone through your blog updates on your ovarian cancer experience. Your courage, grace and ability to stay positive throughout has been truly inspiring.

Even after all this time, we still affectionately called each other by the nicknames we had at school, ‘Birdie’ and ‘Doggie’. It was so good to see you at our high school reunion in April last year, though at the time I had no idea it would be the last time I would ever see you in person.

I only found out late this afternoon (6th) that you had crossed over some time on the 3rd. You and I had differing beliefs about spirituality though we each respected the other’s point of view. On the day you died I was attending a spiritual retreat with friends where we performed a ritual of healing and renewal while walking a spiral labyrinth path. You walked with me around that spiral as I sent healing energy to you, and you looked fit, healthy and radiantly alive and happy. I was hoping for a miracle cure (yes, I know, lol) but deep down I knew that the energy raised and sent during the ritual was better used to bring you peace and comfort to help ease your transition to the next leg of your journey. ❤ The following day at the retreat, in spite of trying to remain positive and sending you more healing energy, I couldn’t shake the feeling that you had already gone. Finally today, I saw Facebook posts that confirmed this. 😥

I have so many fond memories of our time together …our visits to each other’s homes during our school years and later; outings together with groups of friends; birthday parties and other gatherings; being at each other’s weddings (you took great delight in eating some of the floral decorations on your table at my wedding in 1980, giving a practical demonstration of your interest in Wild Foods, lol 😀 ) and our (all too few) interstate visits to each other’s homes (especially my family’s adventure at Easter 2002 to visit you and your family, though sadly we didn’t take any photos) where we caught up on our latest news and our children played together (and also at your parents’ house here in Sydney). The time seems to have gone by so very, very quickly. 😦

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You are loved and sorely missed …a vibrant life taken far too soon. Thank you for being my friend and thank you for being uniquely you! I send my love and sincere condolences to all your family, especially to your husband, son, daughter, mother and sister during this very sad time.

With much love,
Doggie xoxo

R.I.P. ‘Birdie’
22 Feb 1958 — 3 Nov 2018

P.S. You posted the lyrics from Turn! Turn! Turn! (to Everything There is a Season — originally from the book of Ecclesiastes) on your final blog update, so I found my favourite version of it to post here as a musical tribute, not realising until now that it was recorded by The Byrds. 😀

inviteA Memorial Ceremony  for Alison will be held on 8 December 2018. Please click on the image to the right for more details…














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